Arranged Marriage - Centuries old Bullshit!!! at Tuesday, March 07, 2006

Yes.Those 2 brutal,stupid,fucked-up yeah call it whatever you want.Not long from now ill be sucked into the trap too. You heard me trap. The god damned trap.Pray not though.
God knows how many young lives it's taken and how many lives are destined to be broken up in the lawyers best act-of-play DIVORCE.
Yeah I mean how cool is that?

• Look at it from a guys view-

He gets into college... cant have a girlfriend cuz his culture is too backward ( morally strict ) or someshit like that.He literally fucks his own head getting a job.Oh and he has to be an engineer or a doctor. Not just any Dr. As a prefix to his name. He cant cure animals or the unstable. MBA's beat these two dudes anyway. By then prospective girls are arranged for. Earlier it was some bald headed guy going around houses with an umbrella to arrange between both parties. To this day I fail to understand how,I repeat HOW on Gods name on Earth can anybody let a ****ing broker decide which partner looks / is / good for them?And then came the Ads in the paper and later much later,very recent though came sites like shaddi.com.(Getting tech savy aye?)And you got to choose one with a name even Velli amachi(grand-mum) can pronounce. Not some weird old name from the evil-west.
Pray tell me I fail to understand the traditional logic behind this. Or give me names on who's fantastic idea this is. I WANT NAMES DAMMIT!!!

• Girls point of view-

Girls go to college,studies, she cant talk to a guy/ cant get to know him / cant remain friends with him. Why? "What will the people think?" Of course what will they think? I mean you choose what you do/ wear / eat / talk on the basis of what will the people think? They cant dress in what they desire to .... only because "Aalkaar Endho Chindhikum?" (that's "What will people think?" in English) And all of this pays of at the time when you are 21-22. That's right girls are "married off" (sounds like sold off to me) at that age. Their parents talk with the other concerned party( they look for NRI's first) and arrange a meeting. I really don't know whether they get a kick out of sending their girl child off to a bloody firang's house.You guys know the scenario. Girl comes in silk-clad saree and offers Cuppa of chai etc etcetera the families talk the couple are allowed to talk .Yes that's when they actually get to know each other. Their first 15 sec of fame.

If all goes well.( It rarely doesn't and you don't have a choice do you? I mean they raised you for 22 years and you cant exactly say NO to them can you? And all the other crap people say) They are engaged and then married off and tied to a bed of roses (ironic isn't it? You share your bed of roses to your married partner who barely knows what you drink early morn') Even if you even think about uttering "love marriage" (pronounced louve) your shot in the head saying your a disgrace to the Khandan.

• Results in 7/10 cases.

And then she realizes that HE isn't meant for her and vice-versa. And HE realizes that SHE cant cook for the little mercies of the universe etc etcetera. All after you lose your virginity to a complete nincumpoop loser of the first order.Who might invariably give you HIV or VD's who knows?

Or worse you could go on living with this "character of a kind" have kids. Possibly cheat on them. Applies for women too.(No I am not a chauvinist contrary to popular belief) And then file for divorce + mess up the kids life by fighting over who gets the car/house/pool table/arm chair ..........oh and the kid.

I find it amusing if not disgusting over the strict code that the youth can't fall in love before marriage. In India its strictly forbiddenThe same place where the art of sex originated. The same place that boasts about kamasutra in their culture.(different religions aside) So its perfectly normal to do all these but YOU CANNOT FALL IN LOVE BEFORE MARRIAGE. Stupid ? I think not? Bloody Absurd man!!!

Shaddi.com anyone?

thanks for giving me the chance to meet some wonderful men thru your service. I've learned a lot about myself and others thru your services.I met my first and second husband both on shadii.com.Now im trying for my third.
Member - This is a text from the site shadii.com
Bet you got to know a lot of guys who weren't exactly the prince ya'll were looking for eh? Or my personal fav- 'I like variety.'

Am sorry for the use of language. I was compelled to . Couldn't take it on anymore. Post a comment. I want to see how many are for and against this thing. Don't explain just pen down if your against or for it.